I just finished reading a book on how to survive a break-up. Now I hear you asking why. I don't know. I was buying books last week when I saw it. I bought it together with Anne Rice's Violin. It is a Cosmopolitan book entitled "Who Stole My Magic?" by Jenny Manuel.
It is a good read. Although I didn't appreciate it much because I am not heatr broken. But I learned alot of ways on how to cope up with the pains of a split up. this book will come in handy sometime soon.
Anyway, I will give you the steps on how to survive a break-up based from the said book.
1. After a break up, you will need a friend with the patience of a saint. After breaking up, we cry, we ask why, and we wonder what went wrong. Or even worse, we wonder what's wrong with us. It is okay to feel that way, it is our way to release the negativity that we feel. We do not have to keep it inside. Another thing the book said: Don't ever be sorry for feeling sad. And don't apologise for crying - what you are going through is completely normal and healthy.
2. Do not bother asking why it happened. Another thing you should not be doing is asking yourself or your friends "what ifs" questions. As the bookd enumerated: "What if I was prettier/taller/richer?", "What if we lived closer?", What if we were older?", and the like. It will only make you fell worse.
3. Do not listen to any sad songs or music. Just don't. It will only make you feel worse. Instead, listen to happy songs like "Lady Marmalade", "Ray of Light", "I Will Survive", "Respect", etc. So get your Happy CD ready if you think your relationship is on the rocks.
4. Makeover! According to th friend's author, " Beauty may only be skin deep and true bueaty might lie in the soul, but it doesn't hurt to have your outsides looking good when your insides are badly bruised." This makeover includes facials, body spas, and salon makeover. think that it is just an enhancement of yourself.
5. Don't be bitter. Do not talk shit about your ex. Life is too short to be angry and cynical. And as I read somewhere, emotional pains last for only two minutes, after that, everything is self indulgence. Don't be a masochist (look who's talking!).
6. Travel and go somewhere you've never been into. Taking a trip will help you relax, contemplate on your relationship and meet other people! Just make sure you get their numbers and you leave all your excess baggages wherever you go.
7. Rearrange things in your house, if ever you have a house. If not, re-arrange your room. The author took her friend's advice and did a feng shui on her room to make herself feel better.
8. Find a new passion. It is good to find a new hobby to divert your attention in learning whatever you choose.
9. Step back and look at the bigger picture.
10. Get out there and meet new people. This is my favorite part. Meeting new people. Be pretty, and get out there! As the book said, being single does not mean being alone. You have to see being single as an opportunity to meet new acquiantances.
There. I shared to you the steps enumerated on the book. Hope it will be helpful to you broken hearteds! I hope My good friend Xiao will be able to read this piece.
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My friend, Venice, will be getting married this December. I still don't know the groom. But I am excited for my friend!
